Or, at least, here’s why I’m so sad.
Ben and Jennifer were a relatable Hollywood couple. They were vocal about their commitment to each other, their marriage, and their kids. They were not shy about sharing the fact that they worked to balance their demanding careers with their family life.
They one time shared that they took turns doing movies so the other parent could be present for their three kids.
Jennifer always seemed to balance Ben Affleck and calm him down. Previous relationships never survived Ben’s vices. Which included drinking, drugs, and gambling, but Jennifer seemed to help him find a higher calling.
When Ben won an Oscar for Argo, he made note of how difficult the work of marriage is. Because marriage IS hard work. There are days that marriage might feel impossible, but Ben said “it’s hard work, but it’s the best kind of work.” It is so true.
They didn’t seem like other Hollywood couples who sometimes seem to treat marriage as a really serious dating relationship. And divorce as the ultimate break-up. Before they move on to the next. They were open about the struggles, but seemed to share the joy.
So, when they couldn’t make it, after many of us had admired their coupledom, it feels like a reflection on all marriages. If they couldn’t make it, with all their resources, and all the working and the trying, what does that say about marriage in general?
Typing it here seems ridiculous. Of course, someone else’s marriage has no bearing on the rest of ours. Nobody knows what goes on in someone else’s home but them. And all of that is totally true, but they were such an admirable couple, and it’s sad that they couldn’t make it.